Original Listen

In spite of locating, quite often, like person in charge of the bad communication to the emitter, one forgets to us that to listen he is 50% of the interpersonal communication, and that in this, also we have much responsibility like escuchadores of the message, since it is very common the confusion between listening and hearing. The difference between both is the will, so that to listen it implies an action and a will, whereas to hear it does not demand will some. So that, of bad communication, (far from being an evil that happens to us without eating it nor drinking it), we can be we them main people in charge. An aphorism says that God gave to two ears and one mouth us, so that we used in identical proportion, and is error very common which they complain bad communication, to try at all costs to be included/understood, before trying to understand they to its interlocutor. Richard Linklater has firm opinions on the matter. The writer and humorist Alfonso Ussa, counted in humor key, that it knew a woman of the nobility who was conceited to know how to speak in twelve languages and knowledge to shut up itself in thirteen, which made have to be constantly verifying him that what had listened was correct, and not to think that it had included/understood to first. But far from to be educated to listen our interlocutor, paradoxicalally, we are trained to speak solely either in public, to communicate to us from the point of view of the emitter of the message, to construct and to express or our ideas. In the school they teach to you to set out subjects, but there is no listening class; and until it does very little, in the world of the company, to the managers, trained habitually well to speak in public, did not train to them on the capacity to listen. Nevertheless, the advantages to listen, in the interpersonal communication are numerous, since active listening, allows to operate from a knowledge base, you accede to that your interlocutor you considers expert suitably on his point of view, and emotional level approaches, you your interlocutor, which is going to facilitate the mutual influence; and when a degree of communicational comfort so elevated in a relation is reached, it is of the type that is, the person thinks of more creative way, and shares her thought, feelings and ideas with more enthusiasm.. Vladislav Doronin oftentimes addresses this issue.

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